Online adult dating – the good and the bad

Dating can be a minefield at the best of times, but technology has had both positive and negative effects on the dating world. My grandparents met on a bus in London. Nowadays. if you spoke to a stranger on a bus or the tube, or even smiled or made eye contact, you’d be considered weird. To be fair, most of the time we are on public transport we are usually head down, engrossed in our devices or reading a book or newspaper, but that can mean that we miss those real life connections and sparks. Online dating does however mean you are able to connect with people you would never normally meet. Perhaps they live slightly out of your area, or have a different friendship network. Online dating allows us to make contact with people we just would never have normally had a chance to reach.

Another great thing about it is that no matter what it is that you are looking for, you can find like minded people. Looking for long term relationships or marriage, there are sites and apps for that. Looking for bdsm dates, there are sites and apps for that. You can reach out to people who are looking for the same thing you are, thus meaning you aren’t wasting anyone’s time – your own or anyone else’s. There’s nothing worse than connecting with someone and then realising that you aren’t looking for the same thing and feeling dejected, even rejected and disheartened. The dating world is hard enough without wasting our time. Using a site like My BDSM Hookups allows you to connect with other like minded adults looking for what you are looking for.

As Brits we perhaps don’t talk about sex and relationships as much as other nationalities or cultures, and some things are seen as taboo or off-limits, but there are more and more people interested in things like BDSM and fetishes. It can be an awkward thing to bring up, particularly if we don’t really know the other person very well. We don’t want to offend anyone, or embarass ourselves, particularly if we are new to things and are still discovering how we feel about things. Using online dating and sites and apps that allow us to connect with others means we can avoid those tricky conversations. At the end of the day if you have two (or more) consenting adults, then it shouldn’t really matter what other people think. Your life is your life and as long as you are staying safe, then that’s the key thing.

Key tips to staying safe when online dating:

  • Use protection – if someone doesn’t want to use it, then walk away, nothing is more important than your health
  • Make sure someone knows where you are and who you are meeting
  • Meet somewhere public and with good transport links
  • Don’t drink too much – keeping control of your faculties is important, especially when meeting someone new, or going somewhere you’ve not been before.
  • Make sure you have a safe word and both (all) parties know the rules.

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